Well, I finally decided to start the blog I've been sitting on for months (note the title). And I've got to warn you: despite the title, this is probably going to be focused on more than just my marriage...more like a random collection of thoughts, but I'm still at the point where the health of my marriage is on my mind...a lot. Just don't be surprised by a post completely unrelated to marriage....but anyway, here we go!
First off, I've got to admit- I'm not so "newly" married anymore. We're in that murky area, I guess. Most folks consider the end of year one, the end of the "newlywed" period. But then you meet some folks who consider it to be 2 years, some 5...you get the picture. It's subjective when that period is over, but we've reached an agreement about that: the last time someone asks us "So, how does it feel to be married?", that's it. We are no longer newlyweds. Now, granted, we still get that from time to time, but we tend to regard it as something that's funny as opposed to something that we really put any thought into answering...we just give one of those "flip card" answers that everyone gets. Reality is we've been married long enough to know the difficulties and the joys. We just don't consider ourselves newlyweds anymore.
But for those of you who may persist in asking, I have to say I don't think either one of us expects too much in the way of "new". We will have been married 2 years come this October, and we've kind of gotten our groove. Not to say that things don't change, because they do and they will. But that's kind of what I mean. We understand that now...change itself isn't new to us in our relationship, but the lesson we are still learning is how to adapt to that change effectively as a married couple. That's the hard part. Boy, the stuff they don't tell ya in pre-marital...
But before I get too far off topic, I figure it's a good idea to get the disclaimers out of the way. Not too many really, but kinda some biggies if you're sensitive.
1) I can curse. A lot. More when I'm upset. Generally, I've been intimidated enough by my office and their "Big Brother" inspired email policies to find alternate words or censor curses subconsiously. But this is my party- I'll try to keep it clean for the most part, but I make no promises. If you're truly offended by curse words, stop here.
2) I type the way I speak- not necessarily in complete sentences. I can also punctuate excessively. Grammar cops are not welcome (Pop, I'm lookin' at you). This is my therapy, I'll mis-type if I want to.
3) I can ramble and sometimes get off-topic. See number 2....specifically the "my therapy" part.
4) Don't expect frequent posts. As referenced above, I do hope this is therapuetic in some way, but I haven't written consistently in a while, and I'm definitely more of a reader in my free time than a writer.
So all that to say, this isn't a family blog. I'm definitely using this as an outlet of sorts to vent about some things and ramble about others. Really, I have been incredibly inspired by my brother to do this (quick plug: he has a great blog about his firstborn son, my superhero nephew- love that kid!! Check it out: www.1001nicunights.blogspot.com) But as far as we go here, feel free check in time to time, comment, whatever. But seriously, no grammar cops allowed.
